One of the most difficult things we deal with as a council are disagreements between neighbours.
Over the past three years, I can recall a handful of incidents where neighbours have argued their cases against one another with such hostility that the whole council chamber was on edge.
We’ve seen disputes on new developments, backyard chickens and encroachments to name a few. Sometimes disagreements are legitimate. The anger runs deep and the lines are drawn.
However, many cases can be resolved with a compromise or conversation, but before this can happen, a relationship of respect must be established.
I was fortunate to grow up on a cul-de-sac of 11 homes in a working-class neighbourhood of Coquitlam. There were several children, a few yappy dogs, people from various ethnic backgrounds, conservatives, liberals, young and old. Every time someone new moved in, current residents would greet them with a basket of freshly-baked muffins in hand.
The goal wasn’t to know each other’s business. It was to build a sense of community. As a result, I never felt alone. I knew help was next door.
This kind of neighbourhood takes effort but it’s worth it. When you take time to get to know your neighbours, to say hi when you’re out for a walk, to offer a quick wave when you drive by, it creates a comfortable place for everyone. When problems arise, you’re in a better position to collectively resolve issues.
In Summerland, we face unique challenges. We have many absentee homeowners, an often-isolated senior population, an agriculture/urban divide and a wide-range of incomes and lifestyles. We need strong neighbourhoods more than ever.
What can you do to improve your neighbourhood? Can you invite your neighbours over for tea? Can you organize a clean-up? Can you create a phone or email list for your street? Why not ask the Community Foundation of the South Okanagan about its $500 “small neighbourhood” grant to help foster more inclusive neighbourhoods? This can mean organizing a block party, building a little library, or hosting a “rat information session.”
These are real-life examples from Summerland.
The other night my husband and I were out for a walk, when one of our neighbours invited us for a glass of wine. We sat on their deck, enjoyed the view of a nearby park and chatted about life.
After we left, I felt good having learned a little more about who they are. This is where relationships of respect begin, with a simple gesture and a civilized conversation.
Not all neighbour disputes end badly. A few months ago, a resident wrote to council with concerns about plans for a new house across the street from her. At the following meeting, she informed us she had met with her future neighbours and was now in support of their variance permit.
We can all be leaders when it comes to building community if we open our doors and express a willingness to engage. Imagine how many of problems could be solved or avoided over a glass of wine or a cup of tea.
Erin Trainer is a Summerland councillor.